When is sex ideal in pregnancy?

Pregnant women and their husbands often wonder if it’s safe to have sex during pregnancy. Will it result in miscarriage? Will it harm the unborn baby? Are there sex positions to avoid? These and many more questions are going on in the hearts of many couples most especially those that have waited so long for pregnancy. It may surprise you to know that when a woman’s pregnancy is normal, sex is a natural, normal part of pregnancy. Deep penis penetration won’t harm the baby, who is protected by the woman’s abdomen and the uterus’ muscular walls. As a matter of fact, the baby is also cushioned by the amniotic sac’s fluid. More also, the contractions of orgasm some women experience while they climax are not the same as labour contractions. Although as a general safety precaution, it may be advisable for some women to avoid sex in the final weeks of pregnancy, because some hormones in the semen of the man called prostaglandins can stimulate contractions. One exception may be for women who are overdue and want to induce labour. This is because some doctors believe that prostaglandins in the man’s semen actually induce labour in a full-term or past-due pregnancy, since the gel used to “ripen” the cervix and induce labour also contains prostaglandins. But other doctors believe this semen/labour connection is only theoretical and that having sex doesn’t trigger labour. However, it is safer not to have sex if the woman is susceptible to high-risk pregnancy or has a history of past miscarriages. There should be caution too when she is at risk of preterm labour, this is a contraction before 37 weeks of pregnancy. The woman should be careful too if she has vaginal bleeding, discharge, or cramping without a known cause, or when she notices that her amniotic sac is leaking fluid. When scan reveals that the woman is expecting twins, triplets, or other “multiples,” she should exercise restraints. Keep in mind, if your doctor says “no sex,” that may include anything that involves orgasm or sexual arousal, not just intercourse. Women have different experiences when they are pregnant, including how they feel about sex. For some, desire fades during pregnancy. Other women feel more deeply connected to their sexuality and more aroused when they’re pregnant. During pregnancy, it’s normal for sexual desire to come and go as the pregnant woman’s body changes. She may feel self-conscious, happy and in high spirit as her belly grows. Some women actually look and may feel sexier with larger, fuller pointed breasts. And many just want sex from the beginning of the pregnancy till the end. Desire differs absolutely, therefore it is expedient for wives to tell their husbands what they are feeling, what they want and what will work for them. Many times, there may be need for both partners to plan out comfortable, stimulating and arousal positions, especially later in pregnancy. I usually tell expectant mothers to avoid lying flat on their backs in the “missionary position” for sex after the fourth month of pregnancy. That way, she can avoid the weight of the growing baby constricting major blood vessels; this is very important. One of the best ways to make sex more comfortable is to try lying sideways together or the wife might try positioning herself upright or sitting on top of her husband’s laps facing him, or sitting on his tummy backing him. The next question is how about sex after delivery; when, how soon and how long? Actually, the first six weeks after delivery are called the postpartum period. Sex during this time may be the last thing on the mind of the new mother. As a matter of fact, the sexual desire of many new mothers may decrease because of the healing from an episiotomy, the incision or cutting received during normal vaginal delivery, or healing from abdominal incisions after caesarean birth. Some couples stay off sex just because of the normal postpartum bleeding four to six weeks after birth. Many couples even stay off sex for as long as one year. Many new mothers are too tired for sex because of the fatigue after pregnancy and the birthing process coupled with the demands of the new-born. The changing hormone levels is also a major sex piss off. Sex is a no no for some mothers because of the sore breasts from breastfeeding, or simple emotional issues, such as postpartum blues, anxiety over parenting, or relationship issues in the marriage. Whatever the case maybe, sexual relationship/intercourse is generally safe after incisions have fully healed. This healing usually takes several weeks. I also advise couples to consult their personal or family doctors for their opinion and recommendations. Most doctors will ask new mothers to wait for at least six weeks after delivery before intercourse, while some will tell you to start having sex two weeks after delivery, adding that sex itself does a lot of healing to episiotomy or caesarean section. But it is equally very important for the mother to be emotionally ready, physically fit and heartily comfortable, and wholesomely relaxed given the realities and stress of early parenthood. It is also essential for couples to be very patient with each other. In many homes, it can take up to a year for couples to resume normal sex life just because of the new arrival.

Things Female Should Never Do For Love

[b]Drop out of school to marry[/b] Never never never do that Marriage is not the zenith of life but the beginning of a new phase.Going in without the ability to provide is not advised.This message is particularly relevant to the ones marrying men overseas,I have seen that happen,the papers come through and you abandon your education to go to Obodo Oyibo.It is a foolish thing to do,many have regretted it.A bird in hand is worth two in the bush. [b]Bad mouth your family to your fiancé/husband[/b] If you have already done so,don't beat yourself up.Learn from it,marriage sometimes can be like a law court,whatever you say can be used against you when you least expect it.Apply wisdom.even if your parents hate your husband or fiancé with a passion,don't reveal the extent or relay their words verbatim.You may eventually marry him but the man will never forget how they felt about him and the painful things they said. [b]Share secrets of your friends with your man[/b] There is a code of friendship that cannot be broken.If a friend for instance has confided in you with certain deep secrets that will show her in a bad light,please keep it to yourself,including certain utterances that are unwholesome,don't share.there are some things you must take to your grave.I learned this the hard way.I had a friend that was fond of talking ill of Nigerian men and I shared those stories years ago,my husband remembers it till this day and doesn't like her much for that. [b]Compare your situation with that of others even in light hearted humor [/b] When you compare your household with that of others,you are basically telling the man he is not man enough.Be content with what you have and strive together towards doing better.Many young marriages go through strain especially financial strains.Be patient and hope and pray for a better tomorrow,the earnings usually increase as the years go by. [b]Tell your family details of your marital challenges[/b] Very common with young marriages especially for people from a close knit family.Unless your life is in danger,shut your mouth.If you must unburden your heart,find a trusted friend,your pastor's wife,a deaconess in church, a wise auntie,anyone but your mom and siblings.They will never forget the stories you told them and will always view your husband through those prisms long after the issues have been resolved.A third party non relative is preferred. [b]Go sourcing monetary help for the family[/b] Allow the man to do it.you put yourself in vulnerable positions as a female by going out to beg or borrow money for the family if such need arises.Don't take on the role of a rescuer in the marriage.There are some things you should allow the man take the lead in and this is one of them. Add yours

10 Sermons Most Young Ladies Will Likely Turn Deaf Ears To

1. Do Not Have A Boyfriend Haaaaaaaa !!! This is a tough sermon oooo. I remembered vividly when we held Youths & Singles Programme in my fellowship & the ladies were advised not to have to boyfriend not until they are of marriageable age. You just need to see the way the ladies were looking as if they should grab the pastor and tear him to pieces 2. Don't Allow A Guy You Are Dating Hug You Haaaaaa I bet many young ladies will not like to hear this.. The pastor says NO form of hugging is allowed because her bosoms has activating power that could activate thoughts of a average dude... Funny right ? 3. Direct Your Toaster(s) To Your Pastor So many churches demand a lady directs her toaster(s) to the pastor for assessment, that is, when a brother in the church approaches her, she dare not show green light, kindly direct him to your pastor for assessment. * ehhhnnn dis one use style hard oooo grin .. I guess every lady will only be willing to inform her pastor when everything is set but advising her to direct her toaster(s) to her pastors is a NO NO for many young ladies 4. Do Not Visit Any Guy You Are Not Married To I have also attended a Programme when the host (pastor) condemned the act of a lady visiting her fiance. He urged them to meet him in the church, eatery, or when a third party will be present, else they should not go at all 5. Take A Friend Along With Going To His House This sounds like the ladies are being protected from having sex with their lovers. Some pastor preaches against going on a visit when he's alone at home because he believes it should be the best measures taken to curb sex before marriage. This is most likely to go through the left ear & pass through the right ear of our ladies grin 6. Do Not Open Your Legs For Him Since sex is what some ladies use to tie their men down, it will pass through the left eat and go out of the right ear the moment a pastor threatens them to stop the act 7. Do Not Wear Ear Rings Most ladies in churches will change their facial expression when a pastor condemns the use of earringa at the expense of salvation. It takes a personal decision to do away with earrings & jewelry. Therefore, preaching against it will not enter the head of our ladies grin 8. Do Not Wear Trousers This has been a serious debate for a long time. So many ladies don't believe wearing of trousers is a sin because there no Bible verse describing how a man or a woman's garment looks like 9. Any Attachment To Your Body Is A Sin Hiaaaaaaan !!! No weavon, no make-up, no lipstick gloss.. 90% of Nigerian ladies will turn deaf ear to such a sermon when they know that is what ignite their beauty grin 10. Don't Not Consider Dating A Man Who Is Not Born Again Let's not deceive ourselves. What is the percentage of men who are genuinely born again ? Ladies will most likely turn deaf ears because they know it won't be easy & it might take them eternity searching born again dudes

Facing the Hypocricy of Men

The other day, I was talking to a male acquaintance whose one-time girlfriend had been a friend of mine, which I had been aware of ended because he refused to get married after three years of being together. He was complaining to me of how his house had been turned into a “base” by his friends, and how he never had any moments of peace any longer, and how he was wondering what to do about the situation. I remarked that perhaps, he ought to get married.

“who needs a woman?” was his reply. “I don’t know anyway. I don’t have the time to be attached to any woman Emotional attachment divides a man’s heart, and God did not create man with two heart.”
“So what do you intend to do?” I asked.
I don’t know, I just know that I have to do something” he replied.
“do you have househelp?” I asked again.
“yes, but a househelp is no good. He can’t stop them from storming my place. Perhaps, I’ll just get a woman to live with me.”
“As a wife?” I asked him.
“No, just a live – if she’s lucky.”
I didn’t say anything to that. I gave him a murderous look, quickly said good-bye and walked away. I was so furious.
Why are men such Hypocrites? Why do they have to adopt this love em- and –leave-em- attitude? I have since found out the answer. It is because they are afraid; afraid of how much power the women really have over them. The power that women can wield over them if they stay long enough.
You hear a man brag to his friend of how he is keeping a particular woman. Asked him if she is to be his wife and he will shout. “What for?”
Some other time, you hear another bachelor boy say to his friend, “Boy you needs to get married-o; this kin life no fit continue.” Why does he need a wife? Bed partner? Housemaid? Housekeeper? All these he can get without getting married. The simple truth is he can’t take care of himself. He needs someone to do that for him. His friends can’t do that for him, because they are men like himself, same sides of a coin. Only woman can, with her patience, strength of character, her terrific reserves of determination, her power. Whether they admit it or not, men like to be bossed by their mothers, their wives, their mistresses, their girlfriends.
Men! They are such contradictory human beings. They yell one thing and want another. It was a man who said: “Many of us men are Narcissist by nature, we want to have access to other people’s privacy and yet make ours top secret.”
Men are such pathetic pest. They are always calling women weak, dumb, chicken-brained etc. the fact is, that is the way they’d prefer women to be. They can’t handle strong women. When the women refuse to be suppressed, they label them bitches. The fact is men are the dumb ones. They realize that and fight it. The effort turns them into hypocrites. Putting up macho-images, Facades all! Underneath the layers there’s nothing but vanity, fickleness. That’s just what they are. Empty!
What does a man prove by “capturing” a girl, insisting on knowing her every move, then suddenly dropping her after years of being kept prisoner. He goes on to another, saying she’s not what he wants. What pride is there for you men to have up to six different girls call on you in a day? What does a man prove by marrying thirty-eight women in fifteen years? If God had intended to create women as games of soccer for men, he would have moulded us in the shape of footballs.
Everywhere you go, you encounter cases of male chauvinism. Men trying to assert themselves, trying to impose themselves on women. You hear a man say, “A man has got to be a man”. To prove what? Male superiority over the female? Men sternly oppose the idea of giving a woman free hand because thy see it as equivalent to surrendering the so-called Male superiority. Most Nigerian men are conservative. They believe they must be the bosses where women are involved.
Teel me, what you would think of a woman, abandon and in the depths of distress, who did not try to get herself out of such a state of affairs. You would say she was a moron. We know of so many families who couldn’t have survived today if not for the women who had to take drastic action to salvage the situation. There was once a story in one of the news dailies about a woman who had to collect bones and castaway of meat from the butchers to feed her family. There are many cases of women who had to raise up their kids single-handedly because the men had scurried off in times of hardship, chickened out. Women have more resilience, more strength than most men.
We have heard of the maximum-“stand firmly by what you believe is right.” Tell me how many men who have poor suffering relatives in the villages, but spend their money trying to impress unsuspecting young ladies in the cities; who would go to great pains to cater for the needs of a girlfriend rather than pay thy fees of a younger brother. I can hear some guilty men arguing, “But it’s the young ladies that harass the men into giving in,” isn’t it the men who always brag, “There are many fishes in the sea?” shouldn’t their reasoning prevail over by a woman, it proves he’s the dumb one.
Talk about the uncompromising feminist enjoying her liberation from the “chauvinistic Adams.” And the men claiming they can’t. when a woman tries to assert herself, to demand that the relationship for once goes her way, on her own terms, the man cannot handle that. He screams, “Frustrated bitch.”
I have found out one thing. A man may be able to help you find happiness, for a very short while, at the end of which you’ll realize, when you weigh your loss, that the bad and the ugly were much more than the good.
The truth is: a man feels his masculinity is affronted “if the woman has the upper hand, his inadequacies would be expose”.
I once read somewhere, “if what men fear is that women might succumb to their masculine attraction, why did they not institute veils for themselves?

Prostate Cancer: How Frequent Do You Urinate At Night ? - Health

As bosom cancer is common in women above 45 years of age, so is prostate cancer in men above the age of 60. Prostate cancer is a disease which affects only men and it affects the prostate -- a gland in the male reproductive system. Statistics by the National Cancer Registry estimate that one out of six men in the world will be diagnosed with prostate cancer before their golden jubilee. Though statistics on this cancer is lacking in Nigeria, experts say the incidence is increasing. So, there are odds that one could have a father, grandfather, husband, brother or friend living with this disease at any time. But the cheering news is that, experts say, it is preventable and treatable when detected early before irreversible damage has been done to the prostate. Why should men be worried about this cancer? Apart from the fact that it affects their sexuality, it can also send the victim to an early grave. Early detection is a challenge here, as many men are not likely to see their doctor unless it's an emergency. But this may be dangerous, doctors advise. Indeed, physicians say there is an appreciable increase in the number of men being diagnosed with this disease. A consultant urologist, Dr. Sam Adeleke, says unlike in the past when only old men were diagnosed with the disease, doctors now see younger men with prostate cancer, hence, men of all ages must watch out. Adeleke states that many men would die without even knowing they had the disease, as it usually has no symptoms. A few lucky ones may experience the warning signs, especially those at the advanced stages, physicians say. Experts say the following factors may increase your risk of getting prostate cancer and advise that if four of these eight factors apply to you, then you must see a doctor to erase all doubts. Being Black Black men have the highest rate of prostate cancer diagnosis and death in the world, according to the Centres for Disease Control and Prevention, Atlanta, United States of America. "Worse, black men seem to get more severe form, are more likely to have the cancer come back after treatment and are more likely to die of this disease," Dr. Jane Worthington says. She recommends tests every year, starting at age 40. Family History A man is twice as likely to get the disease if he has one first-degree relative -- father, brother, son -- with a history of it, according to the Prostate Cancer Foundation. The risk goes up if more relatives are affected, Worthington says. She states, "It may be as high as 50 per cent if three family members (father and two brothers, for example) have had it, if it occurs in three generations (grandfather, father, son) or if two relatives developed it younger than 55 years old." And don't forget the women in the family. The expert adds that prostate cancer risk can be inherited from the mother's family as well. So, ask about your maternal family history. Being over 50 The older the man, the higher his risk. "In men between 40-49, the risk of developing prostate cancer is one in 50," Worthington says. From 60-79, it's one in seven. But don't wait till you are 60 before you take a PSA test. "Prostate cancer screening should start at age 40," Worthington notes. Heavy Weight Being overweight or obese is a prostate cancer risk, according to many studies. Researchers found that men who put on extra weight in their 20s and 30s face a higher risk. "A study by the American Cancer Society found that men with a BMI greater than 30 were 20-25 per cent were more likely to die of prostate cancer than thinner men," Worthington warns. Experts believe that too much body fat throws off the body's normal production of insulin and testosterone, which may fuel growth of prostate cancer cells. But that's not just the fear of prostate cancer here, as too much belly fat and a high-fat diet can also raise the risk of heart disease and diabetes. Fatty Foods Eating fatty and fried food is also a problem. "Dietary fat may not only help cause prostate cancer, but it may also affect the way it progresses -- how fast cancer cells proliferate, their ability to spread and the body's ability to fight off this invasion," Worthington explains. Foods high in saturated fats, especially from animal products such as red meat and dairy, appear to be the worst dietary trigger for prostate cancer, Worthington says. Smoking Cigarette smoking gives cancer cells a comfy place to grow, Worthington says. "Research doesn't yet show that smoking causes prostate cancer, but it has proven that a nicotine habit can help it grow faster and more aggressively. Tell him to stop smoking now," Worthington advises. Urinary Troubles "If he gets up frequently in the middle of the night to urinate, he could have problems with his prostate," Adeleke counsels. This is because the urethra, the tube that carries urine and Fluid, runs right through the middle of the prostate like a straw, experts say. Urinary troubles often signal benign prostatic hyperplasia -- a non-cancerous enlargement of the gland that's common in men older than 40. Still, any changes in urination -- including pain, weak flow, difficulty starting or stopping, frequent night time urination, or blood in the urine or Fluid -- should be evaluated by a doctor. Painful Bowel Movement Because the prostate lives on the other side of the rectal wall, prostate enlargement or cancer can often cause pain during a bowel movement. This, along with a bloody stool, may also be a symptom of colorectal cancer.

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Lyrics of "In Christ Alone" by New boyz

In Christ Alone Lyrics by Newsboys
In Christ Alone
my hope is found
He is my light, my strength, my song
This Cornerstone, this solid ground
Firm through the fiercest drought and storm
What heights of love, what depths of peace
When fears are stilled, when strivings cease
My Comforter, my All in All
Here in the love of Christ I stand

In Christ alone, who took on flesh
Fullness of God in helpless babe
This gift of love and righteousness
Scorned by the ones He came to save
'Till on that cross as Jesus died
The wrath of God was satisfied
For every sin on Him was laid
Here in the death of Christ I live

There in the ground His body lay
Light of the world by darkness slain
Then bursting forth in glorious Day
Up from the grave He rose again
And as He stands in victory
Sin's curse has lost it's grip on me
For I am His and He is mine
Brought with the precious blood of Christ

No guilt in life, no fear in death
This is the power of Christ in me
From life's first cry to final breath
Jesus commands my destiny
No power of hell, no scheme of man
Can ever pluck me from His hand
'Till He returns or calls me home
Here in the power of Christ I'll stand
Newsboys Lyrics - In Christ Alone